The Importance of Processing Your Emotions (Click to see more)
As a little girl it was really hard for me to understand my emotions after my mom’s death. Processing loss of any kind is difficult. There’s ups, downs, occasional breakdowns, then moments of total and complete JOY. What I’ve realized throughout it all is that it’s imperative to let yourself feel. When you have periods of sadness it’s important to embrace those emotions in their entirety. Then after there are no tears left to cry (s/o Ariana Grande) go on with your life and live it to the FULLEST.
Take note of what makes you happy. Think back to the moments you were the happiest. Who were you with? What were you doing? If you incorporate even just a little bit of those things into your daily routine you WILL be happy. The only catch is YOU have to be the one that WANTS to be happy. Don’t get me wrong, there will always be moments of sadness after loss because a piece of you will always be missing. This doesn’t have to consume you though.
When you are the master of your thoughts, you are the master of your life. I’ve always lived by the idea of what psychologists refer to as a self fulfilling prophecy, “A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior.” When you believe that you can be happy, you WILL be happy. Allow yourself feel pain but then let yourself experience all of the wonderful things this world has to offer afterwards. There’s nothing you can do to change the circumstance of someone being gone, but you CAN change your outlook.